Being your own Best Friend

 Wisdom Cards © Louise L Hay 

This week's Wisdom Card has this message for you. "I love and accept myself right now." and "I am in the process of becoming my own best friend -- the person I am most joyous to be with."

So I have a question that I would like to ask you all. Who's your best friend? Hopefully you're pulling out a mirror right now and looking at yourself. Of course, you can have best friends who aren't you, but you should be your ultimate, #1 BFF. You have to be around yourself 24-7 and if you don't have a good relationship with yourself then you aren't going to be happy.

I'm going to let you in on a little secret. I have lived alone in my cozy little apartment for seven years now. Some people are shocked to hear this. They just don't get how living alone could be anything but lonely and boring. Believe me, it used to be. In the beginning I hated it. The silence was oppressive, I hated coming home to the emptiness day after day after day. I filled my days with playing online video games (World of Warcraft addict here!) because it allowed me to not be "present". I didn't have to acknowledge that I was utterly and completely alone.


I sank into a depression.


Today it is a completely different story. I LOVE my company. If you haven't noticed, I am a pretty awesome chick, quite entertaining, and my heart is pretty gigantic, what's not to love? I have learned to entertain myself, to take care of and love myself. You can learn that to. Like any relationship it takes work, communication, and a whole lot of love, but it's worth it.

When I'm in a bad mood I usually have an internal dialogue with myself and it goes something like this:

"Okay Dominee. What do you need sweetie? I'm going to get you a nice cup of tea okay? And how about comfy pajamas? And you know that song you like to dance around to wearing nothing but your underwear? Let's try listening to that."

I guarantee you I will not want to move from my spot on my couch. I will not want to listen to music. I will not want to even attempt to feel better, but Best-Friend-Dominee doesn't care, she gets up and she takes care of me, because that's what best friends do.

So spend some time today working on your relationship with you. Do something fun with yourself and know that you don't need another person to "share" fun with to make it valid and meaningful. Dance around your house, do something super nice for you just because, look in the mirror and know that you're a pretty awesome, amazing, fantastic, you!

Do you feel like you are friend to yourself? Why or why not?