I love sharing notes of love with you and with everyone else as well! Please pay it forward and send this to those that you feel need to hear it. Spread the love! Let the ones that you care about know how much they are loved and appreciated!
Friday, 30 March 2012
Thursday, 29 March 2012
As you may know, I am single and I have been for years. Most days I love it. Somedays not so much. Oftentimes, I think that it wouldn't be so bad if I had a supportive group of friends around me, but I don't. I know that is something that I need to work on and I am trying.
I still get so heart-achingly lonely.
Yesterday I launched my latest ebook and started my life coaching practice. At the end of the day I had no one to celebrate with. No one to tell me that they were proud of me. I do know so many of you are, never doubt that I am thankful for all of the online support I have. It is truly invaluable. I know my Tribe is proud of me and loves me.
It still would've been nice to hear it in person. To feel a hug, a pat on the back, something. This left me spending a few hours of the day in a funk. I was watching television and of course there had to be that sweet romantic scene with two people cuddled up tenderly in bed.
It made me cry.
I'm very... we'll go with picky... about relationships. I haven't been in one in many years and I honestly think that is for the best. I've had prospects of course, but no one who calls out to me on a spiritual level and if I do embark on a relationship, that's what I want. I know that I'm still young, (I'm 26) but dating doesn't appeal to me. Anyone that I do see myself developing feelings for, just seems to want the kind of friends-with-benefits relationship that these young'uns are into now a'days, and that doesn't ring true to me.
Although that feeling of loneliness doesn't have the power over me that it used to. It will come, it will stay for a bit, and then it will leave. I will not spend a whole day in bed crying. I will not lay lethargic on the couch listening to sad music. I will accept that yes, I am lonely, and yes, this feeling will go away.
I will realize that I am part of something. Something magical and healing. Something beautiful and strong. I am part of you. I am part of the Universe, of the Great Spirit that binds us all together.
It's hard to feel lonely when you know that you're part of that.
How do you deal with feelings of loneliness? I'd love to hear your thoughts.
Wednesday, 28 March 2012
Jamie Ridler Studios asks us "What do you wish to rise above?"
Such a fitting thing to ask myself right now as I look back at this long journey. I have always been a scaredy cat. I've always found excuses to hide behind. I never thought that I would ever be able to live anything other than a quiet, boring, life. I didn't think it was inside of me to be anything more than that.
I was wrong.
Everyday I am amazed at the depths of the wells within me that I never dreamed were there. It's quite daunting to see yourself as a shallow pool and then realize you are as deep and unfathomable as the ocean. I love the surprises and the mystery that dwells inside of me.
I wish to rise above the preconceived notions I have of myself to truly believe that I am limitless and fathomless.
What do you wish on this Wednesday?
Monday, 26 March 2012
It is awesome!
It is truly beautiful with flecks of sparkle in it and I am just obsessed with holding it up to the light and watching it sparkle.
So what can Sunstone do for you?
If you suffered through winter depression this stone will allow you to begin to heal and let the light back into your life.
Another thing that this stone is great for (and something that I need a lot of) is help saying “no”. It helps you create and maintain healthy boundaries between you and others. It's also good for helping with co-dependency issies.
This stone wins my vote for my official stone of Spring. I think it might be one of my new favorites. It can lift dark moods and be beneficial if you suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder. If you have abandonment issues, feelings of failure, or lack of self-esteem, definitely try working with this stone.
For an extra dose of oomph sit outside and meditate with a sunstone while sitting in the sun. Feel the warmth from the stone in your hand and feel the warmth of the sun sinking in to your bones.
What's your favorite crystal and why?
Sunday, 25 March 2012
Anyway, I wanted to create a little contest to give away THREE free copies on Wednesday.
Yay! I love giving things away and I hope this is one that you'll love!
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See? Super easy! As a thank you for signing up to my newsletter, on Wednesday all newsletter subscribers will get a $5 off coupon, making the entire thing only $15! On Wednesday I'll pick three lucky winners at random and e-mail you the details!
So what's in the Spring Blessings e-book?
You can read even more about it *here*!
On this Self Care Sunday I want to talk about the best medicine. It's been used for ages, it's free to all, and best of all it is a tried and true way to ride yourself of sadness and even anxiety.
Want to know what it is?
Laughter!
Laughter is so good for you. It's an absolutely wonderful, and necessary, way to keep your sanity.
For your Self Care assignment today I want you to find something that makes you laugh. Go out with your friends and have a great time, watch a funny movie, or go to your favorite funny website (I absolutely love http://failblog.org/ )
Enjoy the sound of your laughter, enjoy belly-laughs, enjoy the feeling of lightness that comes with it.
Friday, 23 March 2012
Thursday, 22 March 2012
Today's card comes from The Druid Animal Oracle. The Horse calls upon us to journey. This may manifest itself in a desire to travel the physical world, or to delve deep within ourselves and explore our inner realms.
If we are feeling restless, this card asks us to look at the root of it. If we have difficulty settling down or finish tasks it may be that we have not fully accepted our sense of place in the world. Where do you belong?
Horse also represents wildness and freedom. How do you relate to those topics. Do you feel like you have room in your life to embrace those concepts? How do you celebrate your freedom? In what ways are your wild?
Horse magic has some wonderful lessons to teach us.
Allow yourself to embark on new journeys, ride in new directions, and discover your freedom and power.
Tuesday, 20 March 2012
Monday, 19 March 2012
Namaste!
Today I wanted to share a little bit more about chakras. In January I gave you some info about the Root Chakra. Today we're going to talk about the Sacral Chakra.
Today I wanted to share a little bit more about chakras. In January I gave you some info about the Root Chakra. Today we're going to talk about the Sacral Chakra.
The Sacral Chakra
Color: Orange
Location: Right below the belly button
Color: Orange
Location: Right below the belly button
The Sacral Chakra is the second chakra and is found below the belly button in the lower area of your abdomen. Emotionally it governs your feelings and sexuality. This allows you to be open, to express affection and sexuality, and to be emotional.
Physically the Sacral Chakra is in charge of sexual organs, your lower spine, large intestines and your bladder.
Mentally it affects how well you control yourself, whether or not you are susceptible to addiction, as well as your ability to handle sexual relationships as well as your creativity.
This chakra might be imbalanced if you have problems with your self-esteem, overly emotional, difficulty in expressing emotions, an under or overactive sex drive, co-dependency, or problems with feeling guilt and shame.
A few ways to heal those imbalances are with crystals such as citrine, carnelian, and tiger's eye. You can place them in your receiving hand (usually the left one) and while breathing deep, let their energy flow through you. You can also lay down and meditate with the crystal placed over your chakra.
You can also experiment with essential oils such as orange, jasmine, and rose, all are oils which can help connect you to your sexuality.
Sunday, 18 March 2012
Mornin' my loves!
Winter is almost over, we're officially in the home stretch and I can't wait. I seem to love all of the seasons but once we get half way through I am so ready for the next one.
What did you learn about yourself this winter?
Hopefully you were gentle with yourself and were able to practice self love and self care.
If you feel called to, I would love for you to journal on all of the ways you showed love to yourself this Winter.
Make it a point to continue to do those things. Make it a priority.
Friday, 16 March 2012
Thursday, 15 March 2012
Today the card that I pulled for me, for you, for us, is Iris of the Rainbows from Brian Froud's The Faery's Oracle.
Hope. Promise for the Future.
This card is telling us that there is light breaking through the present Darkness. (It's like the Winter darkness is fading to make room for the brightness of Spring.) Hope is such a beautiful thing to have as we wait for the storms to pass. There is always something to be learned in the darkness.
The passage through the storm is a time of potential growth, to allow all of our old and dead issues to blow away or to be cleaned by the rain. Let this be a time of liberation and transformation for you. There is so much beauty coming your way, so much light to be ready for and to celebrate.
I am in awe that I've created this life and this work for myself. For so long I just kinda plodded along, content in the fact that nothing changed. I was steady...
And now I am not and it's beautiful and wonderful and miraculous all at once.
I am changing the world, I know this. Maybe it's only one person at a time but that is enough for me. I love what I do, I am passionate about what I do, and that is something that I have always wanted and always wished for. Talk about dreams come true. I feel like I am awash in rainbow waters that just crash over me and fill me with joy. I love that my daily quotes on Facebook and Twitter inspire people. I love that my Self-Care tips every morning encourage people to do something nourishing for themselves.
I feel so nourished right now, in my heart and in my soul.
When I first started this business I was so overwhelmed with everything that I wanted to do. I got burnt out, I got panicky, I drowned in to-do lists, I struggled with time management and parts of it sucked. I feel like I've finally found my stride. It fills my heart to the brim.
The best thing about this journey is the people I've met. I have such a wonderful tribe of readers, inspirations, and people that are walking hand-in-hand with me on this journey.
I'm so heart-full and soul-full.
What I really want to say is thank you for your continued love and know that it is returned to you with all of my heart.
WE are amazing.
WE are Divine.
WE are changing the World.
Love, love, love,
Tuesday, 13 March 2012
Just imagine what could happen.
I've always been someone who is more invested in the past than I am the future. I think about the past, a lot. I learn from it, I carry it with me. I'm invested in the present, and in the near future. I love to make to-do lists for the week, but that's not really the future. The future is something far off in the distance that I don't really think about until it has become the past.
I wish to be unafraid of having big dreams and I wish to be unafraid of really believing that they can happen.
I am still so afraid of the future, of change, and I want to be able to release that so that I can think of the things that might happen, the magic that I might create. The miracles that will happen. The dreams that will come true.
I wish for you to believe in the future and the beauty of your dreams. May they come true in a big way!
It is so true!
Why do I love and adore Kind Over Matter?
There is so much content. There is an inspirational post and picture every morning, called the Morning Thought, and it's a great way to start the day. The blog posts are insightful and beautifully written.
What's the most awesome thing about Kind Over Matter?
That would be the Freebies, all nearly 70 of them. Yep, you heard me. Almost seventy freebies. There are awesome printables. There are cards you can print out for your Garden, beautiful cards, posters, and banners. The artwork is truly lovely and the posters and cards are very inspirational. You should definitely go check it out.
Monday, 12 March 2012
She goes by the name of Hestia, and when it comes to Housekeeping, she is God.
Hestia, Greek Goddess of the Hearth and Home, she who sits quietly in front of the hearth fire. Hestia has always been one of my favorite Goddesses. You might think that I would be attracted to Artemis or Aphrodite but no, I always had an affection for this quiet Goddess. Which was difficult, because unlike the other Goddesses not much is known about Hestia.
In Greek Mythology, the Titan Cronos was afraid that his children would overthrow his ruling of Olympus, just as he had overthrown his father. As each of his children were born, he promptly swallowed them. His youngest child Zeus eventually defeated him and he vomited his children back up. Hestia was the first one swallowed and the last one to come back up. She then became known as the "first and last". The Greeks would pay homage to her at both the end and the beginning of ritual.
Hestia is also known for giving up her seat on Mount Olympus for the God Dionysus so that she could devote to spending all of her time tending the sacred fires. Which speaks to her giving nature and her dedication to her duties.
It was tradition when moving into a new home to evoke Hestia and ask for her blessing. Often times the Greeks would take the fire from their old home and bring it to the new.
Light a candle and ask Hestia to bless your home and to watch over your family.
If you are having trouble finding the motivation to do chores asking Hestia for assistance will give you just the push that you need. Any activities that involve the home, such as cleaning, cooking, redecorating, can all benefit from a touch of Hestia Magic. Invite the warm, loving, constant, flame of her love into your life.
Use this time to make your home into some place sacred.
Sunday, 11 March 2012
The past is there to be learned from, the key here is learn. This does not mean that you get to bring up the past to make yourself feel bad. To live a life full of regrets. Learn the lesson and then move joyfully on, putting it behind you.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” – Helen Keller
Self Love is all about being kind to yourself and to do that you must not hold on too tightly to your mistakes. Acknowledge them and then let them go off into the night. They are not for you anymore. I sometimes have those days where my mind wanders back to the past, where I beat myself up for so much wasted time making mistakes and being unhappy.
Yet it wasn't wasted. It brought me here, to this place... this place where things are better and I am more whole than I was. Today I want you to make a conscious effort in loving yourself enough to let your mistakes go, let the pain go, be proud of the fact that you made it out the other side.
I'm proud of you.
“Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can’t build on it; it is good only for wallowing.” – Katherine Mansfield
Friday, 9 March 2012
Thursday, 8 March 2012
Morning my heart-loves. Today's card comes from Louise L Hay's Wisdom Cards and it is something that I've wanted to talk about.You see, I'm a bit of an empath.
What is an empath? An empath is someone who is sensitive to another person's feelings and emotions. Not just the obvious emotions either, a lot of the time you just know what's going on underneath. The things that they aren't showing.
It gives me great insight into people and I feel like it's a huge advantage in being able to connect with other people.
It can also completely suck.
I pick up moods and feelings very easily and this can be very problematic at times. My good moods drop significantly when being around people who aren't happy. I feel another's hurt and pain so clearly sometimes that it becomes my own. This is especially true for people that I am close to. I use to find myself obsessing about their problems, feeling hurt over them, anxious because of them, and racking my brain on how to FIX it.
I was living another person's issues and feelings and it doesn't take a genius to figure out that's a bad idea.
It's wonderful to want to help your friends, to want to make them happy, to make their life better, but there's a thin line between supporting someone carrying a burden, helping them to carry a burden, and then trying to take the burden from them and carry it yourself. The Wisdom Card up above says:"I can not learn other people's lessons for them. They must do the work themselves, and they will do it when they are ready."
That's a tough lesson for me. I want to help people. I want my loved ones to be happy. I also have to allow them to walk their own path. When they're ready they will do the work, they will take care of their "stuff" it's not my job to do it for them, as much as I may want to. This lesson reflects back on my word of the year, which is "boundaries". Every day is a new experience.
Tuesday, 6 March 2012
Good morning my fellow Wishcasters, let us stand around the World Wishing Well together as we cast our hopes and dreams out into the world. This week Jamie Ridler Studios asks us:
"What is your Spirit wishing for?"
A year ago I probably would have answered: Purpose. I wanted to know why I was here, what I was meant to do on this wonderful planet called Earth.
I know the answer to that now, and my spirit is happy. This is what I do. I write. I use my words to inspire others. I share my stories so that others know that they are not alone. A few days ago I wrote Fierce Body Love. It was my sharing of my body issues and as I released that out into the world the resounding voices that answered were beautiful, and honest, and amazing. Women all over related to what I was saying and shared their own stories with me.
This made my spirit happy.
My spirit wishes to light the path that we all walk. Light the way to body-acceptance, to self-love, to happiness, to joy, to a greater understanding of self. I think we all have that power, to light the way for other. To help them, in-turn, to become a light. It's a beautiful cycle that allows us all to be a part of it.
Hello Lovies! Today we're going to take a little field trip to a wonderful planet of Dreaming, Daring, Doing. Planet SARK! I am a huge fan of SARK, also known as Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy. (You can read my review of one of her books here)
Who is SARK and why do I love her so much?
SARK is one of the most transformational influences on my life so far. Her books have been such an inspiration to me on so many levels. The thing that I just love about her is how honest she is about how she lives. She has her bad days, she has her good days, but most days she lives in the messy middle.
"A great life means living in what I call the “marvelous messy middle,” feeling all of my feelings as much as possible." - SARK
When I first started this journey I wanted to be happy ALL THE TIME. I never wanted to have a bad day, never wanted to have a reason to cry, I wanted a life full of rainbows and happiness, no dark clouds, no chilling windy nights, nothing but Joy. I was convinced that this power was inside of me and I could be one of "those people". The thing is, "those people" aren't real. Life is meant to be lived in the "messy middle".
What do I love about Planet SARK?
Pretty much everything! The layout is cute and whimsical, and there are some great resources for you. It's an all in one place to find her books, events and ecourses. You can also sign up for her Great Life Letter (absolutely for free), which is 52 magical life lessons SARK wants to share with you.
But what I love the very, very, mostest is SARK's free Inspiration Line. 415-546-3742 (EPIC) "The Inspiration Line is a 24/7 magical, practical and REAL free 5 minute love note from my inner Wise Self to Yours." I can't tell you how many times I've called the Inspiration Line when I'm stressed out or depressed just to hear her loving message. It always leaves me feeling uplifted yet grounded and in the present. Awesome, awesome, stuff.
I hope you enjoy your visit to Planet SARK!
Lovelovelove,
Monday, 5 March 2012
Hello Lovies. Today we have a very special guest for our Magic Manifesting Monday! Lindsay Drya form Dryada Journals is here to share with us her wisdom of herbs. I hope that you enjoy!
Hello sweeties!
Today I wish to talk about herbs and… well happiness. You know, there are so many exercises to find happiness in life, meditation, journal prompts, music, yoga and so on… but what if these things don’t help? Sometimes, we can’t help the dark feelings which crawl inside. A lack of serotonin, a lack of sunlight or even heredity. In these cases there is a lot of chance that a simple meditation will not work.
Thanks to my migraines I am blessed with an overdose of serotonin every now and then. But when my body tries to find back her balance, I’m bouncing back. Next to that, depressions are known in my family plus I live in Belgium which means that (especially at winter times) the weather is very grey. So.. I have the whole milkshake which gives me a challenge to stay happy.
But sometimes I’m not. And that’s perfectly fine but.. if you feel bad for no special reason and it stays like that for days or weeks, you really need to do something before you go deeper.
I’ve grown up as a herbalist and experimenting with plants in my garden, making my own meds, and so on. After many years of trying stuff, I have a list of herbs which I always come back to when I don’t feel very well. And so, that’s what I want to share with you today. These herbs are very known and you can find them in a organic shop, use them as tea or – if you wish to use it in a stronger way- in herbal tincture. Both uses are fine, however, I suggest to try it as tea first (3x a day) because this is more safe. If you wish to use it as a herbal tincture, be sure to ask the seller how you should use it. (Or you can ask me, see below to contact me) Anyways, here is my top 3 list:
Lemon balm (Melissa). This is my favorite herb because it makes you simply happy. I knew people who couldn’t stop laughing, people who were singing after they used this herb. Besides that, it’s a very good taste as tea too! It feels like the dark clouds are finally moving, you worry less and feel more relieved. Pregnant woman can use this in very low doses, as tea.
Passiflora. This herbs works a little different then lemon balm. It’s not really a happy-maker directly, the most important thing about this herb is the relaxing function. However, it also creates more serotonin in your body, which is a good thing for people who feel tired all the time. On the other hand, this herb should not be used by people who have a serotonin syndrome or migraines/epilepsy which is related to that. Also pregnant women are not allowed to use this.
Linden blossom. This one is also very relaxing but in a different way than Passiflora. While Passiflora is used for people who are too tired, this herb works for those who can’t sleep at all. People with too much stress, hyperactivity, moodswings or insomnia will be helped with this herb. Tea or gemmotherapy works best. This is also one of the most safe relaxing herbs you can use when you are pregnant.
To me these are the 3 most important herbs which can help against moodswings, stress or fight a depression in a soft safe way. In other words, for every moody problem, there is a herb which can help. Nature have given us enough tools to fight back in a careful way.
Lindsay Drya is a writer, photographer and mixed media artist who journal her (night) dreams every day. Besides being a blog addict, she tries to live her life in a creative organic way in which she hope to inspire people with her art. Spirituality is essential in her life for it is her goal to live and love life unconditional.
You can find Lindsay Drya here:
Blog: http://dryadajournals.blogspot.com
Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Dryas-Dream-Art/117767684941274
Twitter: https://twitter.com/DryasDreamArt
Other links you can find at http://about.me/lindsaydrya
Today I wish to talk about herbs and… well happiness. You know, there are so many exercises to find happiness in life, meditation, journal prompts, music, yoga and so on… but what if these things don’t help? Sometimes, we can’t help the dark feelings which crawl inside. A lack of serotonin, a lack of sunlight or even heredity. In these cases there is a lot of chance that a simple meditation will not work.
Thanks to my migraines I am blessed with an overdose of serotonin every now and then. But when my body tries to find back her balance, I’m bouncing back. Next to that, depressions are known in my family plus I live in Belgium which means that (especially at winter times) the weather is very grey. So.. I have the whole milkshake which gives me a challenge to stay happy.
But sometimes I’m not. And that’s perfectly fine but.. if you feel bad for no special reason and it stays like that for days or weeks, you really need to do something before you go deeper.
I’ve grown up as a herbalist and experimenting with plants in my garden, making my own meds, and so on. After many years of trying stuff, I have a list of herbs which I always come back to when I don’t feel very well. And so, that’s what I want to share with you today. These herbs are very known and you can find them in a organic shop, use them as tea or – if you wish to use it in a stronger way- in herbal tincture. Both uses are fine, however, I suggest to try it as tea first (3x a day) because this is more safe. If you wish to use it as a herbal tincture, be sure to ask the seller how you should use it. (Or you can ask me, see below to contact me) Anyways, here is my top 3 list:
Lemon balm (Melissa). This is my favorite herb because it makes you simply happy. I knew people who couldn’t stop laughing, people who were singing after they used this herb. Besides that, it’s a very good taste as tea too! It feels like the dark clouds are finally moving, you worry less and feel more relieved. Pregnant woman can use this in very low doses, as tea.
Passiflora. This herbs works a little different then lemon balm. It’s not really a happy-maker directly, the most important thing about this herb is the relaxing function. However, it also creates more serotonin in your body, which is a good thing for people who feel tired all the time. On the other hand, this herb should not be used by people who have a serotonin syndrome or migraines/epilepsy which is related to that. Also pregnant women are not allowed to use this.
Linden blossom. This one is also very relaxing but in a different way than Passiflora. While Passiflora is used for people who are too tired, this herb works for those who can’t sleep at all. People with too much stress, hyperactivity, moodswings or insomnia will be helped with this herb. Tea or gemmotherapy works best. This is also one of the most safe relaxing herbs you can use when you are pregnant.
To me these are the 3 most important herbs which can help against moodswings, stress or fight a depression in a soft safe way. In other words, for every moody problem, there is a herb which can help. Nature have given us enough tools to fight back in a careful way.
Lindsay Drya is a writer, photographer and mixed media artist who journal her (night) dreams every day. Besides being a blog addict, she tries to live her life in a creative organic way in which she hope to inspire people with her art. Spirituality is essential in her life for it is her goal to live and love life unconditional.
You can find Lindsay Drya here:
Blog: http://dryadajournals.blogspot.com
Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Dryas-Dream-Art/117767684941274
Twitter: https://twitter.com/DryasDreamArt
Other links you can find at http://about.me/lindsaydrya
Sunday, 4 March 2012
Because I'm pissed off.
Last night I was thinking that over the Winter I've gained weight, my eating habits have been terrible, I've managed to get a cold once each month. I started thinking about Summer and jogging/running (which I love), basketball (which I'm not very good at but love anyway) and how my Winter-weight would easily come off.
On my personal twitter account I tweeted: "Random thought. I'm wondering how much I weigh. I think I need to lose 15ish pounds. Can't wait till Summer."
This was the response I got from one of my "friends":
"Really? You don't think you look HIV-y enough?"
That completely floored me and crushed me. I spent the whole night in tears. I look like I have HIV? Do I look that thin? Do I look sick and emaciated? Is that what people see when they look at me?
I honestly think it's the cruelest thing anyone has ever said to me.
If you've read my post, the Body Sacred, then you'll know about my weight 'struggles' which are a bit topsy turvy.
I spent my whole life being on the heavy side. I weighed over 200lb three years ago and I liked my body. I thought my curves were sexy and my body was beautiful. I started to treat my body better by eating healthier and exercising for the first time in my life. I ended up losing over 70lb and it completely screwed with my head.
I missed my "fullness", I missed my curves. At 130lbs (I'm also pretty short, only 5"1) I started feeling so unsexy and bad about my body. This was perpetuated by people jokingly telling me that I needed to eat a cheeseburger, telling me to eat, asking me if I was anorexic.
I felt incredibly uncomfortable in my own body.
No one said anything about my body when I weighed 200lb and now they were and it felt over-overwhelmingly negative.
I felt like a 200lb woman, stuck in a 130lb body, where everyone saw me as 80lb. It was terrible.
Over the last year I've made peace with it. Started to love my body again, see it as sexy, join the "no-matter-what-size-you-are-you-are-BEAUTIFUL" mentality. And then:
"Really? You don't think you look HIV-y enough?"
It sent me into a tailspin of depression. This wasn't from a random person on the internet. It was from someone I've known for seven years. Someone I see on a weekly basis at work. Someone I considered a friend. I went back to the place of "You look so hideous." However my mind refused to agree.
"You ARE beautiful," my mind said over and over. "You don't look emaciated. You don't look sickly. You look beautiful." And after a while my hurt heart began to agree.
So I decided I was going to go home and take a picture of my BEAUTIFUL body. Stretch marks and all. Curves and all. That's me up there and I know that I am beautiful. I no longer demean my body and I will not allow someone else to do so. I love my body and I do not give permission to anyone to disparage my body.
It is my body, mine, and I will honor it, I will protect it, and I will love it fiercely.
Friday, 2 March 2012
Thursday, 1 March 2012
Hello my Fruit Loop Sweeties, let's talk about our Inner Child. Today's Wisdom Card is "I love myself totally in the now" and on the flipside, "I am gentle, kind, and comforting to my inner child as we uncover and release the old, negative, messages within us."
in·ner child
A person's supposed original or true self, esp. when regarded as damaged or concealed by negative childhood experiences.
Each and every one of us has that inner child within us. That part of us that longs to jump in puddles and make mud pies. That part of us that wants to hear that we are good, and loved and worthwhile.
Some of us had happy childhoods, some of us did not. If you had a happy childhood do you still carry that happiness with you? Now is the time to go outside and do something fun and childlike. It's wonderful to tap into that energy.
If your childhood was less than perfect then are there things that you are still carrying around with you? As impressionable young children it is so easy for us to hear something and then cling to it as if it were truth. It is also easy for us to take a situation in our minds and twist it in a negative way. As a child if someone leaves us or forgets about us, we internalize it and can blame ourselves, even if it isn't our fault.
Is there something that you need to let go of? Some message that you carried with you through out your life?
Personally, I never knew my biological father and I always felt like it was somehow my fault. After my grandmother died, my (step) grandfather removed himself from my family's life. I also felt like that made me inadequate in some way. I carried it with me that I wasn't worth loving. I wasn't worth loving to begin with and even after knowing me, watching me grow up, taking me for ice cream, I still wasn't worth loving.
This is not truth.
We are all worth loving. As a child, there is nothing bad about us, nothing unworthy, we are all special and beautiful. (Of course this still holds true to the you right now)
How can you be gentle and loving with yourself and with your inner child today?
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