Wait... I'm a control freak?

If you would've told me a few days ago that I was a control freak I would've looked at you with a raised eyebrow like you were a nutter.

After all, if you are a control freak, well you must be ambitious, and impeccably dressed, and you must have your shit together. On the other hand, I tend to be pretty disorganized, I'm really no good at telling other people what to do, and I don't really mind being told what to do and following rules.

Fact is: I'm still a control freak.

I like being in the Driver's Seat as far as where I'm going and how I am going to get there. I like knowing how things are going to turn out. I like it when people act and do as I would expect them to. I've had a lot of up and downs lately and I realized my big hang up, the thing that was making all of the sucky stuff suck more.

My need to control the outcome of everything.

I have a real problem with laying back and letting things happen. I'll use my business as an example, it would've been nice if I created my business, and the right people found it by fate and happenstance, and it grew and blossomed beautifully with little effort from me. Like a wildflower in a field that just needs the earth, sunshine, and water, and to be left alone. In reality it's like an Orchid, I'm constantly adjusting the light, the air circulation, the amount of shade, the temperature, the humidity, adding fertilizer, potting and repotting... it's a lot of work and I love being in control of whether it fails or thrives.

In my business, that attitude works great, in my personal life, not so much.

The thing about life is that it usually rejects a tight grip. I mean, try to plan out the next few weeks to the tiniest detail and see how well it really works for you. Chances are, a lot of things will not end up going your way. At one point on my journey I learned how important and beneficial it is to let go of getting attached to the outcome of situations. Let them come and let them go and just accept it for what it is.

I need to re-learn that.

I need to stop expecting everything to go a certain way because that's what I want. I'm setting myself up for disappointment, especially when it involves having expectations of other people. So here's what I am going to do and I am going to ask you to do it with me.

Accept the moment for what it is

Don't focus so much on what has happened or what will happen, allow yourself to be in the moment, be fully present, and appreciate what you have in the moment. This moment right now is really all you've got anyway.

Do you find it hard to let go of your attachment to outcomes? Are you good at just going with the flow?