Wishcasting: Treasures I Wish For

Hello my fellow Wishmakers!

This week's prompt at Jamie Ridler Studios "What treasures do you wish for?" kind of threw me for a loop. I keep thinking "What do you wish to treasure?" Which is pretty much everything and everyone! But what treasures do I wish for? Well that is a whole different story.

My life feels so full right now. So it's difficult to actually wish for something I don't have. Not to say that next week I won't be wishing for everything under the Sun. But today, today is a good day. And I realized that there is something that I want. I want the treasure of friendship. If you've been a reader of my blog for awhile then you've read Why I Am A Bad Friend. I'm still getting used to this friendship thing, still trying to figure out how to relate, how to give space, how to be there. No one ever told me it was this complicated!

I wish to create more friendships, more treasures, with the people around me. I am still realizing how important it is to have friendships and how wonderful they are. I wish to continue to heal the friendships that have been broken in the past. I wish to forgive the friends that have let me down and to realize that no one is perfect.

Here is to friendship and I hope you are all blessed with such a treasure!

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Magic Manifesting: Prayer

Magic Manifesting, whoo hoo! Time to get our magic on! Are you ready!? One of the most powerful acts of Magic is prayer, after all, praying is a type of magic. Beautiful, powerful, soul-to-Universe, connection. 

There are so many ways to pray and I believe all of them have a certain beauty to them. I wanted to share with you my thoughts.

I pray in a variety of ways.

I talk to my Gods every day in many different forms. I believe that prayer should be a part of daily life, it allows us to stay connected to the Universe, to God in what ever name you call him. It allows us to truly recognize the things in our life that we are grateful for.

Prayer is defined as: A solemn request for help or expression of thanks addressed to God or an object of worship.

I disagree that it has to be a solemn request for help. Solemn is boring. Sure there's a time and a place for solemn but I don't think I would like praying half as much if I had to stop and be solemn to do it. Something I say on a regular basis is "Gods, please let this day be filled with joy and awesomeness." Nothing solemn about that! Expressing joy, happiness, and gratitude is much more my kind of thing.

I see my relationship with God as any other type of relationship and all relationships require an output of energy, an exchange if you will, and communication to be fulfilling. When you are going through a crisis of faith, a Dark Night of the Soul, that is the time to have more conversation, to pray more. Like I said, it's a relationship.

If you were having issues with your partner, going about your day/week/month, completely ignoring them wouldn't fix anything. Pretending that they weren't part of your life until you needed something from them wouldn't be very healthy or fulfilling. It takes work, and it takes time, but all of the wonderful things in life worth having do!

Whatever you believe, make it a part of your daily life. It will change you in miraculous ways.

My deities that I have close relationships with, are Aphrodite, Hestia, and Shiva and I pray to them in different ways because every relationship is different. Randomly throughout the day I say thank you to them. I write love letters in a journal devoted to Aphrodite every day before I go to sleep. Shiva is a God that dances and I dance for him to show my gratitude and my joy. While I do household chores or while I'm cooking I talk with Hestia. I love how all of my relationships are different. This is all a form of prayer to me and it enriches my life.

How do you pray?

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Self Care: Tea

Today's Self Care Topic is all about tea! Tea is my go to drink for relaxation and it works! Just the smell of it, watching the steam float up from the cup, soothes me and instantly makes me feel a little bit better.

So, tea! In case you've never made tea before, and I know a few people that haven't, it's really easy. There's the traditional way, of getting a tea kettle, boiling water, pouring it into a cup, add a tea bag, let it steep, add sweetener if you so desire, and voila. I usually do things the easiest way and that's microwaving a cup of water until it's hot, add a teabag, and sugar. Admittedly, I am a the-faster-the-results-the-better kind of girl. I will admit to you that doing it the longer way does taste better.

If you are really feeling adventurous you can use loose tea leaves or herbs, pop them in a tea ball and come up with your own flavors.

My favorite kind of tea is herbal tea, which isn't actually "tea" at all, as it doesn't usually have tea leaves in it. Herbal teas include herbs, fried fruits, and flowers and is almost always caffeine free, which is why it's great for relaxation and perfect for your bed time routine.

My favorite tea brands:

Celestial Seasonings- This tea company is my FAVORITE tea provider because not only do they have a ton of flavors, they all taste amazing. My favorite flavor is Sleepytime, seeing the sleeping bear on the box always makes me think of when my grandmother would let me sip her tea. It's a wonderful blend of lemongrass, mint, and chamomile and my favorite ever!

Tazo - Is another brand that I like. My favorite Tazo tea is "Zen" and it's absolutely delicious. It is green tea, lemon verbena, and spearmint and has a more mellow taste than Celestial Seasoning's Sleepytime.

Yogi Teas - are quick becoming a favorite. This line of teas is more into herbal supplements but they still taste great. This is a great brand to use if you have health issues. There are tons of teas for joint pain, immune support, stomach and digestive troubles, sore throats, and colds. They also have a tea line just for women, including pregnancy, lactation, and female reproductive health. Another plus, they are all organic!

So go brew yourself a cup of tea, breathe it in, relax, and enjoy.

What is your favorite tea? Comment here or tell me on Facebook!

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Things I Love: Fanfiction, Vampire Diaries, Dragonlance

I decided to bring back the "Things I Love posts" because they're fun and I'd love for you to get to know me on a different level. I'd love to get to know you too so feel free to hang out with me on facebook sometime.One of my favorite tv shows is The Vampire Diaries. You might be laughing right now but I swear it's an awesome series. I never really got into Twilight Mania and I'm lukewarm on the whole vampire thing, but this series is amazeballs.


The premise of the show is two vampire brothers, one good -Stefan and one evil(ish) - Damon, both in love with a human girl named Elena who looks exactly like the vampire who turned them 150 years ago. I know it sounds cheesy but the layers of depth to each character, especially Stefan and Damon is just mindblowing. Every episode leaves you screaming at the tv "Did that REALLY just happen?!" The writers for this show are Gods at a good cliff hanger. Also, unlike most love triangles I don't have a clear favorite and I love rooting for both of the brothers.


Another thing that I love is reading, although I am sure that you know this. I spent the majority of my childhood lost in books and it was pretty much the best thing ever in my opinion. (I've always been a bit strange).


One of the series that I loved getting lost in was Dragonlance. For you non-geeks, the Dragonlance Series was inspired by the game Dungeons and Dragons (which I've only "kinda" played but it was a complete blast). Anyway, there are almost 200 Dragonlance novels and my favorite is the one that started it all. Dragons of Autumn Twilight is about a group of Adventurers, a half-elf, dwarf, a kender, a few humans, and a mage with golden skin and pupils in the shape of hourglasses, (His name is Raistlin and I love him the most) and their journey to rediscover magic and the Gods.

I also love reading fanfiction at Fanfiction.net it is all sorts of awesome to read stories about your favorite characters where they do crazy things, or things that you always wanted them to do, or couples get together that you always wanted to get together. I write Harry Potter fanfic and it is a blast!

And last but not least, here is a song that I love. If this doesn't make you want to get up and dance then you're pretty hopeless.

So I want to know, what do you love?

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Wisdom Cards: I Am Kali

I figured I would mix things up a little bit today and instead of a one of Louise L Hay's Wisdom Cards I am sharing a card from the Oracle of Shadows and Light by Lucy Cavendish.

The card I pulled today was:

I am Kali - From Death comes rebirth


Kali is the blue-skinned Hindu Goddess of birth, death, and rebirth. She represents destruction as it is her role to clear away those things that are no longer needed. She is often seen weilding a sword and wearing the severed heads of her enemies around her neck. Kali is very strong, very powerful, and very protective. She is fierce and can be frightening, but when you allow yourself to understand her purpose she can help you with painful transitions. Allow her to assist you in letting go what is no longer needed.

Kali is the dancer who moves through the fire, severing the things that have tangled you. She is not afraid of death, she faces it head on and fearless. To her, every act of destruction is also an act of creation. She has come to help you clear away the obstacles on your path. It is time to destroy what you have longed to let go of.

It is time to release the fear that is stopping you from greatness.

Kali will give you the strength to purify your life and purge it of negativity if you are willing to do the work. She will not let you sit idly by, this is a time for action. Can you do what needs to be done? Can you walk forward without hesitation?

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Happy Thanksgiving!

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Wishcasting Wednesday: What I wish to remember

Hello fellow Wishcasters! This week's prompt over at Jamie Ridler Studios is what do you wish to remember? This one was so easy for me. First of all:

Thank you.

Last week's prompt brought with it such an out pouring of love and support. I can't tell you how many times my eyes teared up reading all of your comments as I realized that I already do make a difference.

My faults and insecurities aside, I am making a difference. What a wonderful thing to realize, and even more wonderful to celebrate. I realized that if one thing that I do/write/share causes someone to feel better or brings them happiness, then I am succeeding in everything that I want to do.

I wish to remember that I make a difference. I want you to remember that too. It's true, I believe that with my whole being. All of us are making a difference with our voices. We teach, we share our souls, we shine lights on those dark, hidden parts of ourselves so that others don't feel so alone, we support one another.

We wish together.

Everything you do can make a difference to somebody.

You make a difference to me.

Thank you.

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Magic Manifesting: Tarot and Oracle Cards

It's Magic Manifesting Monday, which means it's time for your weekly dose of magic and witchery! Today I wanted to talk a little bit about one of the most popular forms of Divination: tarot and oracle cards. 

Now, you'll find all sorts of reasonings as to the how tarot and oracle cards work. My personal belief is that the cards are guided by our Higher Selves. I think that our Spirits are very wise and know things that we don't normally have access to. It's all a matter of being still and asking that part of us for guidance.

I am by no means an "expert", but I do feel a kinship with my cards. I feel different energies from them and have always found my readings to be honest and affirming. Sometimes I dislike what they say, but it's similar to asking a friend for advice, sometimes you're going to hear what you don't want to hear.

I had a practice at the beginning of the year of doing a reading at the beginning of every week and then documenting what cards turned up. I was going through a really tough time in my life then. I was having a lot of problems with my best friend at the time. She and I had pretty much ended our friendship and I remember getting either the Three of Swords or the Nine of Swords in almost every reading. These cards represent heartbreak and depression, which was exactly what I was going through.

Not only do the cards affirm what we already know, but they act as a guide when we are facing difficult situations, they can unearth issues that we have buried and not dealt with, and most importantly they facilitate the belief in your intuition. 


You are powerful, you are wise, you are magical.

If you are just starting out in learning about tarot cards I recommend getting acquainted with Oracle Cards first. Oracle cards are an easier version of the tarot, each card has a clear message for you. I usually pull one card when I need quick and easy advice without having to look for a deeper meaning.

My favorite tarot deck is the Llewellyn Tarot and my favorite oracle decks are Brian Froud's (of Labyrinth and Dark Crystal fame) The Faeries' Oracle, Lucy Cavendish's Oracle of Shadows and Light, and Doreen Virtue's Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards.

Do you have any experience with tarot cards? I'd love to hear about your experiences, both negative and positive. Especially your favorite decks!

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Self Care: Nature Walks

Good morning my dear ones! It's time for Self Care Sunday. Hopefully you've been taking good care of yourself! This time of the year is stressful for a lot of us. We have Thanksgiving, dealing with our families, we have to start thinking about our Christmas shopping. We have so much stress in our lives, which means we have to balance it out with taking care of ourselves. There's a great way to do this.

It's also completely free.

Go outside! I know, simple right? If you're a parent you've probably told your kids more than once, to "go outside and play". It isn't good to be cooped up all day, in front of the computer or television, on the cellphone, stuck behind our desks, or busy with work. You need to go outside too!

Studies have shown that being out in nature is a great healer. Taking walks, even short ones, are good for you. It's a great way to get a little exercise and has a lot of other benefits. Walking out in nature can reduce stress, lower your blood pressure, decrease your risk of depression, and relax you. If you're a fan of Mama Earth like I am, it can bring you closer to God/Universe/Divine. All of those benefits just by taking a few minutes to walk around the block or through the park.

Make sure that this month you are paying close attention to your stress levels and putting you first!

Have you spent some time outside this week?

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Love Notes: It's going to be okay.

Hello my sweetlings. I wrote this a few days ago when I was having a rough time and I wanted to share it today.

"Today is one of those days where I am just bubbling over with anxiety. I hate for it to be quiet. I hate for there to be a microsecond of silence. Right now, while I write, I am also watching tv on my computer. The moment the show ends, and there's that stretch of silence I panic until there's sound again. The sound chases away the thoughts, you know? It gives me something else to concentrate on.

I have to face the silence eventually. 

I have a message for you and for me:

It will be okay.

Take a deep breath.

If you aren't ready to deal with it today. That's okay.

Realize that it will get better. Maybe not today.

Maybe not even tomorrow.

But it will get better. 

I promise. 

I cross my heart.

So deep, deep, breath. As deep as you can.

You know that person that always makes you laugh?

Talk to them.

Or that thing that makes you giggle wildly.

Go do it.

Surround yourself with love in its very many forms.

It will pull you through.

It's going to be okay.

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Wisdom Cards: I Deserve Only Good

Hey you, my sweet, sweet, darling. This is a little reminder asking you if you're taking care of you? It's a stressful time of the year and I am your Self-Care Fairy, buzzing around your head, reminding you to do something good for you. You are the only you that you know, so avoid burn-out and stress. Take some time to relax. As this week's Wisdom Card tells us, "I deserve only good in my life." The flip side of the card says: "I release other people's fears and limitations, I think my own loving thoughts."

I want you to feel it, I want you to believe it. Take a deep breath... deeper... let it out. Take a look at your life right now. Are you stressed out about what someone else wants or expects out of you? If so, try to let that go. Put it aside for now, look at it, does it suit you? Is it for your own good? If not then let it go.

You really don't have to do anything you don't want to do, you know?

Remember to be kind to yourself, care about yourself, talk to yourself like you would your dearest friend, and if you need to, tell yourself to slow down.

You deserve only good,

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Wishcasting Wednesday: My Greatest Wish

Oh how I love Wishcasting Wednesday! Today's prompt is "What is your greatest wish?" This one brought up an immediate response for me. My greatest wish is to be a bright light in the world.

It is also the scariest wish I could make for myself.

I've spent my whole life being timid. Never wanting to be in the spotlight. I was that girl in the library reading during lunch because I had no one to sit with. I missed out on Prom and Graduation because I didn't have it in me to go.

I've grown so much since then, but I still have things holding me back. I don't know if those things are an integral part of who I am, or things that I need to overcome to be my true self.

How do you balance who you were meant to be with who you want to be? Or is there really a difference? It just feels like I was born a Mouse and now I am doing all of this work to become a Lion. I almost feel like I am being disloyal to who I really am to become something I want to be, but something I am inherently not.

Whoa, did this just get deep and rambly.

I suppose I just need to believe that I was born the Lion and everything else is just challenges and obstacles to being my true self. It's all in your perspective right?

So, I think now my greatest wish is to have the courage and dedication to be the bright light that I know I can be. To help and inspire. To be creative and artistic. To share myself, my heart, and my gifts and to make a difference.

That's a pretty great wish.

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Book Review: The Goddess of Happiness

Everyone could use a little happiness, especially in November with the Holidays coming up. The energy this month is just kicking my ass. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions and anxiety and I am quite ready to get off!

I feel so rushed to get things done and I just need to slow down and relax. I am in need of a lazy day, asap! Don't get me wrong. I love creating, and being busy, but sometimes it's so nice to do nothing. (Speaking of creating, have you checked out my mini meditation page and the desktop wallpapers?)

Today's book review is one that is great to have if you need a little brightness in your day but not a lot of time to get it.

The Goddess of Happiness by Debbie Gisonni is a cute little book that I picked up last year. It's 168 pages of short and simple ways to improve your happiness. The book starts out with a little quiz to see if you are a Goddess of Happiness. If you don't pamper yourself very often, if you're constantly busy and never have time for "you" then this book will help you slow down and put yourself first.

This book has 44 little sections on ways to find happiness. Each section has a few pages about a topic, five ways to embrace that topic, and then affirmations you can say to Think it. Say it. Feel it.

There are some great suggestions in this book. Notice what makes your heart flutter and do it more often. Don't respond to rudeness with more rudeness. Feel grateful, not guilty, when someone helps you. Honor your inner child by playing first and working later every once and awhile.

The affirmations are equally as lovely: I am embraced by gratitude every day. I love myself and my life. I am uniquely perfect in many ways. I cherish and own my life, which is uniquely mine.


The perfect book for implementing a little bit of happiness and awareness into your day!

On a sidenote this quote from one of my favorite authors made me giggle:
"My goodness! - Or somebody else's goodness if mine isn't substantial 
enough!" - L.M. Montgomery

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Magic Manifesting: Jar Candle Magic

Good morning dear hearts!

It's Monday so that means I want to talk magical, witchy, things. I figured I'd start off with something easy to do with something that you probably have around your house. Next to prayer, which is the most basic magical thing you can do, candle magic is pretty simple.

I have several ways of doing candle magic, it really all depends on what is easiest for me and what I have at hand. Not to mention I love candles. Who doesn't? They create a wonderful ambiance and they smell nice!

The point of candle magic is to put your intent into a candle and then burn the candle to release your intent out into the world. Pretty simple, no? I usually use candle magic to promote peace and calm within my life and my home. You can light the candle and let it burn all of the way through or you can light, and relight, the candle at intervals. I have a specific lavender candle that I light when I'm upset and need to calm down. Once I feel better I blow it out.

I'm going to tell you about my favorite type of candle magic which is jar candle magic. I actually came up with this concept myself but I'm sure you could find it in a book somewhere. All you need is one of those candles that come in a jar, a permanent marker, and your intent.

Say that you want to let go of anxiety and bring peace into your life. Write the word 'Peace' on the jar with the permanent marker, then hold the candle in your hand, imagining a peaceful feeling coming over yourself. Envision calm and peace flowing through your hands and into the candle and then light it.

Voila, it's magic.

I've written whole prayers on the bigger jars and it's a beautiful practice for me. On my Ancestor Altar I have a big lilac candle (my grandmother's favorite scent) and on the jar I've written words of love to her. Whenever I am thinking about her, or want to feel close to her, I light the candle in honor of her memory and recite the little prayer.

So that's how a candle and a permanent marker is one of my most powerful and magical practices.

Blessed Be,

(And that totally rhymes, hehehe)

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Self Care: Lazy Days

Hello my lovely tribe and welcome to another Self Care Sunday, where we talk about the things that we can do to make our selves feel good, pampered, and loved.  

Today we're going to talk about lazy days!

Yes, I spoke the blasphemous "L" word. Lazy, lazy, lazy, say it with me. LAZY.

If you are like me, then the thought of doing nothing for a whole day, or even just an afternoon, fills you with "But I have this to do... and this... and this..."  The only time I actually spend any significant amount of time relaxing in bed is when I am in the depths of depression.

Which tells me that it's one of the ways I heal. One of the ways I get in touch with me. It's one of my medicine tools. But that doesn't mean that it can't be done any dang time. Because it can! It's good to have quiet time, to get in touch with ourselves without a ton of distractions and things to do.

So here's what I want you to do. Pick a day (or if you insist a morning/afternoon/evening where you don't have much to do and plan those things for some other time. They can wait. Get into your comfiest pajamas (if they are a bit tattered and mismatched you get extra points) and then relax, be lazy. Listen to music, play computer games (World of Warcraft is my go-to lazy day activity). If you have children and it's the weekend then all of you can stay in your pajamas, reading, watching cartoons, playing board games, eating pizza! 

Stay in bed allowing yourself to doze, spend time painting or writing without worrying about time constraints, order delivery or takeout food, or live on sandwiches for the day!

Do what requires the least amount of effort and don't worry about the other stuff. A little procrastination is a good thing!

Do you have "Lazy Days"? What's your favorite activity? How do you get over the guilt of relaxing?

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Wisdom Cards: One Step At A Time

 Wisdom Cards © Louise L Hay 

 "The moment I say positive affirmations, I step out of the victim role. I am no longer helpless. I acknowledge my own power." and "I am taking the next step for my healing."

There are a lot of things that have started me on this path. So many things that I can't even begin to count them. One of these things, one of the powerful healing tools in my arsenal, are affirmations.  

What is an affirmation? An affirmation is a positive saying that you repeat out loud, or to yourself, to change your thinking in a positive way. 

As most of you know the last week was a week of Big Medicine for me. It was full of depression and yuckiness and nothing was going my way.

My self-talk was pretty terrible, I was mean to myself, rude, and hurtful. Me, myself, and I have forgiven each other and now we're on good terms but it doesn't completely erase the hurt I felt at the terrible things I thought about myself.

When I'm in that dark place it is sometimes hard to remember the things I should be doing to feel better. You know what will help, it is just so hard to expend the effort to do it. I didn't write down any affirmations, I didn't pull out my books full of them, but an affirmation did help me.

If you've ever seen/read The Help then you know that one of the main characters, Aibileen, a black maid in the 1960s takes care of a little four year old girl named Mae Mobley. Aibileen tells Mae Mobley "You is smart. You is kind. You is important." 

I found this stuck in my head the whole time I was upset. It's not eloquent or poetic, but it helped. As long as you can wrap your mind around something good, tell yourself something nice, then you are taking the right step.

Affirmations can comfort you, they can be something you can use to heal yourself when you are scared or hurt. It gives you a way to take control over your emotions and not let them control you. You choose how you get to feel. You choose how things are going to turn out. It's pretty amazing to have that type of power.

Do you use affirmations? How have they worked for you? What's your favorite?

Love you my bright shining beauties,

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Wishcasting Wednesday: Tea Time with Viviane

Today's Prompt at Jamie Ridler's Wishcasting Wednesday is "Who do you wish to have tea with?" My first response was tea with my readers, I'd love to sit down and really get to know you. To learn about what makes you laugh and what makes you sad, what makes you want to dance around your home swinging your arms madly with joy as you shake your hips.

Of course I'd dearly love that!

However, I decided to also add in something a bit more whimsical. If I could have tea with anyone, real or imagined, living or dead, I would chose to have tea with Viviane, Priestess of Avalon, Lady of the Lake, from Arthurian Legend, and specifically from the book the Mists of Avalon by Marion Zimmer Bradley. I am currently reading the book and I love it so far. I was a huge fan of the movie when it came out in 2001. It was released around the time I began to delve into Goddess Spirituality. I loved the idea of magic, prophecy, and priestesses and I wished that I could transport myself into that time and live it.

If I could have tea with Viviane I would ask her to tell me the ancient stories of the Isle of Avalon, of the Druids, of the Priestesses, and of the Goddess and the Horned One. I would ask her to speak to me of magic, of the Sight, and the ancient ways.

A glorious cup of tea it would be!

I really look forward to reading the Lady of Avalon as soon as I am done with the Mists of Avalon. I love this world and I can not wait to read more about it. In the beginning of the Mists I found Viviane to be quite unlikable. She used and manipulated people that she claimed to care about. As the book progresses, I find myself liking her more and more. You realize that she is just trying to do the best that she can for the survival of her world. You begin to understand how much weight is on her shoulders and there are glimpses that show you that she wishes that she wasn't bound to follow prophecy and her Priestess duties.

So that's who I'd have tea with! What about you? Who would you invite to tea?

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Book Review: The Trouble With Magic

First off I want to say I love you, I love you, I love you. The last few days I have felt such an out Today's book review is a little bit different because it's fiction, but it's a book I really enjoyed reading. It's called The Trouble With Magic and it's the first book in the wonderful Bewitching Mysteries Series and I love it! It's one of those books that you can curl up with on a rainy day and spend the whole afternoon getting lost in the story.

I'm normally not a fan of mystery/murder/supernatural books but this one jumped out at me mainly because of its witchy/magical nature. The main character, Maggie, is 29 and lives in a small town in Indiana, working a job that she hates. After getting fired, she stumbles upon an antique shop called Enchantments where she meets the owner, Felicity. Maggie and Felicity hit it off right away and Maggie finds herself offered a job at Enchantments.

Maggie discovers that Felicity is a Witch and when Felicity is arrested for her estranged sister's murder, Maggie is put in charge of Enchantments. Suddenly, it is up to Maggie to figure out what happened and whether or not she is working for a murderer. With the help of some really attractive men, Tom, a Police Officer, and Marcus a motorcycle-riding member of Felicity's Coven, Maggie begins to suspect something else is going on.

Add in some spooky happenings in Maggie's life and she begins to wonder if maybe magic is real and she has a bit of it herself.

It's cute, it's an easy read, I love the author's sense of humor, and it's the perfect book to lounge around in bed reading.

Double, double, toil and... murder?

Happy reading!

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Magic Manifesting: Full Moon Magic

On Thursday it's going to be the Full Moon. November's Full Moon is called the Snow Moon, and I thought I would talk about Full Moon Magic for this Monday's Magic Manifesting. Talk about alliteration!

Magic is most powerful during the Full Moon.

Think about it, that beautiful, huge, bright, orb shining high up in the night sky. There are few things more magical than that.

You've probably heard about how all the crazies come out during the Full Moon. This can be because the Full Moon brings with it a spike in Universal energy. Some people are sensitive to that energy and can easily become more emotional.

This is the time to do protection magic, healing, or any magic that involves growth. If you need that burst of energy to finish a project this is the time to ask for it! The Full Moon energy is powerful, nurturing, and cleansing. It also represents the aspect of the Mother Goddess.

Which also makes it a wonderful time to cleanse your energy of negativity. There's a quick ritual called Drawing Down The Moon that you can to do.

You can be outside in nature, underneath the Full Moon and if that's not possible you can imagine the Full Moon up above you. See its light shining down around you.

Bathe in the light. See it flooding your body, flowing into every part of you. As the silvery, white, light flows into your body, imagine it washing away the negativity, the hurts, the pain. Let it wash away everything, leaving you clean and vibrant.

Once you have done this, imagine the white light flowing into the earth, back into nature, grounding you back into your body.

"Tell me what you feel in your room when the full moon is shining in upon you and your lamp is dying out, and I will tell you how old you are, and I shall know if you are happy."
-Henri Frederic Amiel 

Do you celebrate the Cycles of the Moon? What do you do?

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Self Care: Big Medicine

Hello sweetlings. I have been having a very rough time of it lately and it is drudging up all sorts of feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, and just general depression.

Sometimes you need to feel sad and hurt. I know this, I believe this. Yet, sometimes those emotions grab you and pull you under until you can't breathe, until you are seconds away from drowning. When it reaches that point you have to loosen your grip a little. You have to start letting the pain go. I have spent the last three days crying and beating myself up and holding on so hard to self-loathing, hurt, and fear.

"You're all alone. Of course no one loves you. You've never been put first and never will be. If you can't earn anyone's love then how broken must you be? If you were smarter, if you had gone to college, if you had babies... then you'd be worth something."

I've taken my wounds and begun stabbing them with sharp objects, making them hurt more. Why do I do this?

Why do we do this?

I've tried to feel better. I've done little things. I made apple pie, I watched Golden Girls in my jammies, I listened to sad music, listened to happy music, journaled, talked about how I was feeling. None of it helped. This morning while I was at work I found myself swimming in the sea of "You are not good enough." Felt it pull me under, almost given up trying to fight it. But, you can't just give up. So I got home and I pulled out my big medicine.

I took my softest blanket and favorite pillow and I laid them on the floor. I sprayed them with lavender. I burned chamomile incense. I lit candles all around this sacred space I created. I took a hot bath, with lavender oil, while I listened to sacred music. I cried, I blessed myself, I let everything out. I prayed. I got out of the bath and sat on my fuzzy blanket, and I braided my hair whilst I thought loving thoughts of myself. I gave myself a massage. I laid down with a piece of amethys over my heart, feeling the heartbeats vibrate against it. I listened to Goddess Meditations. I let all of my emptiness be filled with love.

This was my big medicine.

This was the step I needed to begin healing.

What is your big medicine? What do you do to heal?

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Being your own Best Friend

 Wisdom Cards © Louise L Hay 

This week's Wisdom Card has this message for you. "I love and accept myself right now." and "I am in the process of becoming my own best friend -- the person I am most joyous to be with."

So I have a question that I would like to ask you all. Who's your best friend? Hopefully you're pulling out a mirror right now and looking at yourself. Of course, you can have best friends who aren't you, but you should be your ultimate, #1 BFF. You have to be around yourself 24-7 and if you don't have a good relationship with yourself then you aren't going to be happy.

I'm going to let you in on a little secret. I have lived alone in my cozy little apartment for seven years now. Some people are shocked to hear this. They just don't get how living alone could be anything but lonely and boring. Believe me, it used to be. In the beginning I hated it. The silence was oppressive, I hated coming home to the emptiness day after day after day. I filled my days with playing online video games (World of Warcraft addict here!) because it allowed me to not be "present". I didn't have to acknowledge that I was utterly and completely alone.


I sank into a depression.


Today it is a completely different story. I LOVE my company. If you haven't noticed, I am a pretty awesome chick, quite entertaining, and my heart is pretty gigantic, what's not to love? I have learned to entertain myself, to take care of and love myself. You can learn that to. Like any relationship it takes work, communication, and a whole lot of love, but it's worth it.

When I'm in a bad mood I usually have an internal dialogue with myself and it goes something like this:

"Okay Dominee. What do you need sweetie? I'm going to get you a nice cup of tea okay? And how about comfy pajamas? And you know that song you like to dance around to wearing nothing but your underwear? Let's try listening to that."

I guarantee you I will not want to move from my spot on my couch. I will not want to listen to music. I will not want to even attempt to feel better, but Best-Friend-Dominee doesn't care, she gets up and she takes care of me, because that's what best friends do.

So spend some time today working on your relationship with you. Do something fun with yourself and know that you don't need another person to "share" fun with to make it valid and meaningful. Dance around your house, do something super nice for you just because, look in the mirror and know that you're a pretty awesome, amazing, fantastic, you!

Do you feel like you are friend to yourself? Why or why not?

                                    

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Wishcasting Wednesday: Nourishing

Today's prompt on Jamie Ridler's Wishcasting Wednesday is "How do you wish to nourish yourself?" It's a great question isn't?

It's November and I'm starting to feel that build up of frantic energy. A lot of it has to do with working in retail. The store gets so busy and there's such a huge emphasis on selling, selling, selling. Customers get grumpy, your bosses and coworkers get overwhelmed, and sometimes it's all you can do to not pull your hair out.

Add to that, I am bursting with ideas and inspiration. I am working on a new ebook, "How to find your Goddess". As I've mentioned before Aphrodite and Hestia are my Patron (or Matron, if you will) Goddesses, I've been asked how I found my Goddesses and what that relationship entails. I'd love to share that, so right now I'm working on that sharing, it's also going to include information on almost 50 Goddesses and how to connect with them.

Huge undertaking right?

So back to the nourishing... between the upcoming Thanksgiving/Christmas season and my ideas running all over the place, I am going to nourish myself with relaxation.

I don't always have to be doing something. I can take a day to sit in my jammies and watch the Golden Girls if I want to. It's all about avoiding that horrible thing called burn-out.

I am going to take days to nourish myself by being fabulously lazy.

How do you deal with staying sane during the holiday season?

                                                     

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Book Review: You Can Heal Your Life

It's a new month, a clean slate to make miracles happen. I don't know why, but there's something about a new month that just feels... clean. I can start over, leave the mistakes in the past, move forward.

Each month I pick a word to embrace for the month. This month's word is "healing". I've realized that there are some past hurts that are still hurting. It's frustrating to think that issues are in the past, neatly packed away, and then suddenly there they are, all over again.

We all have work to do, and that's okay. 

Today's book review is a book that I will be picking up again soon and diving into the comforting wisdom of the pages. You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay will probably be one of the most transformational books that you will ever read. This book is all about the power of positive thinking. It is amazing.

As I wrote about in another post entitled Forgiveness, this book was monumental in helping me to find forgiveness for the people in my life that had hurt me and to let go of resentment. It also helped start me on the path to thinking about myself in a positive way.

The exercises and the affirmations in this book are completely life changing. I would definitely recommend this book, especially to someone who is wanting to change their negative thinking. I've been there.


I know how easy it is to slip into the vortex of 'everything sucks and nothing in your life is ever going to go right'.

That choice is yours, ya know?

The most important thing that I have learned from this book would have to be that we can choose our own thoughts. It's true, it's hard, sometimes nearly impossible it seems, but we have the choice to think good things. Since reading this book, when I have negative thoughts I know that I can turn them around. I can think something differently if I want to. Sometimes I want to embrace the positivity and other times I want to allow myself to feel the sadness, there's nothing wrong with that.

Life is about experiencing all emotions.

You Can Heal Your Life will reveal all of the things you dislike about yourself, your life, and the way you see others. Then it will help you change those things one thing at a time. Just because you believe, or were taught, that you were unworthy of love, doesn't mean it's true.

 Discover your own truth.

Each chapter has tons of exercises and affirmations. If you are ready to "do the work" this book will help you get there. Release your limiting beliefs, let go of resentment, be grateful, give forgiveness. Begin to heal. The thread that is woven throughout this book is Love Yourself, that is the magic wand that will fix things. Love for yourself will make you healed and whole.

One of my favorite exercises in this book, aside from the one about forgiveness, is the Mirror. You take a mirror, look into it, and say "I love and accept you exactly as you are." I would do this before I went to bed as a little daily ritual. After awhile, I wasn't just saying that I loved myself. I was telling myself how beautiful I was, praising myself for that awesome thing I accomplished that day, how wonderfully silly and amazing and beautiful I was. It became a daily dialogue of all the things that I loved about myself.

Today without hesitation I can tell you this:

I love myself. I adore myself, and I am an amazing, awesome, human being.

And so are you!

What will your word of the month be?

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